Last time, I shared with you why setting boundaries in business (and really, in life as well) is so very important. This month, I’m writing about the how… how to set boundaries without that sinking, guilty feeling that we’re letting others down. And what can result when we allow ourselves to say NO.
1. Institute boundaries and honor them for everyone to see.
Allow your students, family, friends…to recognize your urgencies and limits. Do not recurrently break your principals about when you are available or what demands are acceptable. Your actions should match your words, thus do not say yes while you imply no.
2. Say yes to an individual and no to the assignment.
Ensure the requester comprehends first how optimistic you feel about them, even though what they’re asking of you can’t be completed with your present amount of work, time, or other limits. Requesters are then less probable to be left with the feeling that your refusal is an individual confront.
3. Provide another resource
Amongst the kindest things that one can do while saying no is offering the other person counsel on where they ought to turn next. Whether it is a specific place or person, or just a suggestion about what you would do if you were in their shoes, this allows them to determine how best to move forward (without your actual support).
4. Get ready to lose out
Some people find it difficult to say no since they fear doing so may lead to a missed opportunity. Or, they want to please everyone for fear of hurting the requester. Remind yourself that whenever you are saying no to a request, you are concurrently saying yes to something that you value more than the demand. Both are prospects. You are only selecting one over the other.
Do you have other suggestions on how to set boundaries? Share them with us in the comments below!
Chrissy Gruninger is Pranakriya’s Marketing Specialist, Director of the Intentional Online Marketing program for yoga teachers and the owner of Social [media] Wellness™, a boutique international social media company. She primarily works with eco and wellness companies and individuals, or as she likes to say, “good people doing good things”. With a graduate degree in sustainable living along with health coaching and yoga certifications, she blends a background in conscious living with her business experience and online marketing knowledge, helping her clients bring their positive messages of wellbeing and harmony into the world.